- I want banana.
- *Gives banana*
- I DON’T WANT BANANA! *Throws tantrum*
September 2, 2015
August 25, 2015
- Daddy, did you go pee pee?
- Yea, why?
- That’s great! Good job! You get a sticker!
August 18, 2015
- What did you sing in school today?
- Wheels On The Bus.
- How do you sing that song?
- *Pauses to think* With my mouth.
August 12, 2015
- Did you just fart?
- I Let It Go.
August 6, 2015
I’m not much of a cook. I once looked up directions on how to boil an egg after my egg “exploded” in the hot water (it’s actually a thing; search for it on Google).
Another time, I boiled a pot of macaroni, then went to change my newborn’s diaper. I didn’t remember to check on the pot until after a round of tummy time and belly zerbers. The water had boiled off and the macaroni was burning.
I won’t tell you about a third incident, except to say: did you know that oatmeal can catch on fire? I didn’t either.
We try to feed our kids healthy natural foods as much as possible. Home-cooked meals are a great way to achieve that in a cost-efficient manner. That’s a driving impetus for me. That, and the sense of accomplishment from not burning the house down.
“I didn’t burn the house down today hon!” I’ll tell my lovely and talented wife.
“That’s great hon,” she’ll answer.
She is a genius cook. I don’t even try to match. She has this ability where she can taste a dish and guess its key ingredients fairly accurately. Me, I’m lucky if I can tell there’s bread in the hamburger I’m eating.
But I know that experience is what I need. The more I boil eggs, make macaroni, and cook oatmeal, the better I’ll become at making healthy meals and knowing that, hey, there’s also beef in my hamburger.
July 30, 2015
I find grocery shopping challenging. Especially when I have to pick out fruits and vegetables.
I’m still trying to get down which items need to be soft, but not too soft, have a certain sound when you knock on them, and are okay to have some brown spots vs have no brown spots at all. Anxiety levels rising!
There needs to be a mnemonic for picking produce, like I before E, except after C. Maybe, “Banana brown bad, slightly green glad” or something.
Just being at the grocery store is an ordeal in itself. Shopping at Safeway on a weekday afternoon usually means being in a sea of mothers, nannies, and retirees.
Any men I come across look like they are picking up party supplies for the office more than buying groceries for the week. Sometimes I seriously consider going home and returning in the evening so I am not such an odd sight.
I’m not one for stereotypes, but admittedly, I’d rather circle the aisles forty times before asking for help. Once, a Safeway clerk stopped me somewhere during my thirty-third circuit and asked if she could help me find something. So I pretended I was just looking for that can of baked beans behind her head.
The angel that she is, my lovely and talented wife saw my plight and helped me create a weekly grocery shopping & cooking schedule.
This significantly satisfied my Type A personality. Now I had a plan. Now I knew exactly what I needed to buy and, eventually, where those items are in the store. I think I’m getting the hang of this now. Anxiety levels declining.
July 23, 2015
I think the biggest challenge is the hair braiding. Yes, definitely the hair braiding.
“Daddy, I want princess hair,” our 2 yo daughter often requests. And of course, only when there’s five minutes left for the morning preschool drop-off.
“Like Elsa,” she says. “Not Anna, Elsa.”
So I rush. My fat Daddy fingers tear our hair and snap hair bands. “Owie Daddy, that hurts!” she cries. Then: “I want Mommy!”
I finally manage lopsided pigtails. One perpendicular out the left side of her head. Another out the right and slightly towards the top.
“This is princess hair?” she asks, trying to look upwards. “Like Elsa?”
I pull both pigtails together towards the middle and use a third hair band. “It is very pretty hair,” I reassure her. “Some princesses have hair like this.” “Maybe,” I add under my breath.
Her hand reaches up and touches her head. “Daddy, this isn’t Elsa hair.”
“It’s almost time for school!” I shout. “Who wants a graham cracker?”
“I do! I do!”
I had her a graham cracker
bribe reward and we rush out the door.
July 19, 2015
It’s been a long time! A lot has happened since I last wrote here. Had two beautiful girls and created a edtech startup. Although it fits into a little sentence, it was one of the most amazing and thrilling chapters of my life.
And now begins another.
I am now a part-time stay-at-home Dad. My first daughter was born when I created my startup. It was challenging to split my focus. I don’t want to do that again. The whole reason I created a company in the education space is because everything I do is for my kids. Sometimes the best way to do that is simply to be there for them, especially in their early years.
This also means, hey, I may be able to start writing again. So hello again! Welcome back.
September 18, 2011
You may have noticed that I haven’t written in a while. I’ve been working on a few exciting ventures and haven’t had the free time I once had to write.
This is an official hiatus. I still love to write and will definitely return to it in earnest someday. For now, I’ll be concentrating on other priorities.
In the meantime, if you’re craving more to read, here are some nice starting points:
- Best Of – A collection of essays that are either my personal favorites or are popular with my readers.
- Conversations – Personally, I love conversations. I love having them and writing about them.
- Dating – I’m no longer single (sorry ladies!), but this category seems to be one of my most popular.
- Theories – I have lots of theories. You may not agree with them all, but perhaps some will make you go, “Hmmm.”
- Travelng – Who doens’t like traveling? If you like reading travel stories, you’ll like this category.
- Values – Curious about me and what makes me tick? Here are a collection of essays that reflect my core values.
August 21, 2011
If my wife and I have children someday, one of my roles as a father will be a social media watchdog. I use the term “social media” to refer to any kind of technology that enables communication and interaction with others, be it Internet, web or mobile.
Right now, there isn’t a whole lot of research or literature on the psychological impact of the Internet and mobile technologies on children. We are already seeing some of the effects though. I’ve seen nieces touch a TV screen, expecting it to be a touch screen. I’ve seen nephews expect instant gratification as quickly as an instant message. I’ve seen friends’ children using a web search to replace their memory of basic facts.
And, I can’t lie – to some extent, I’ve done some of this too. But at least I’m aware of this and try not to let this become a handicap. For young children, however, they don’t have this awareness yet. Such behaviors will shape their entire futures.
Since I haven’t found a single source of the potential issues a child may face when using social media, I decided to amass this list. I’m planning on using this list as a guide for what I may have to teach my children one day. They probably won’t encounter all of these, hopefully, but as a parent, I’d rather be prepared than not.
- The act of publishing too much information about oneself online. There’s a fine line between appropriate sharing and over-sharing. Where that line lies will be a judgement call for each family. At a minimum, I would think child safety is a great line not to cross. There is software for parents that monitors their children’s social media usage as a way of watching out for this too.
- Privacy issues
- Unintentional leaks of your private information to the public. This is in contrast to over-sharing, which is the intentional sharing of your private information. Some organizations may alter their privacy policies, or have weak ones to begin with, putting your private data at risk. The best way to avoid this is to assume that whatever you put on the web will be public one day.
- Cyber bullying
- An extension of bullying, except done online, where taunts and insults can be anonymous, multiplied, amplified, and remain around for a long time, if not forever. When talking about bullying, it may be a good idea to discuss how to deal with both real-life and online bullying, both as a potential bully and the target of a bully.
- Child predators
- Malicious adults who prey on unsuspecting young children. Fortunately, cyber-crime departments of the law enforcement are getting better at nailing these people, but it’s still a concern. Since these predators don’t just operate online, talks about stranger safety should encompass both real-life and Internet interactions.
- Computer security
- Malicious software that can be accidentally downloaded and installed, like viruses and worms. Some teens may be more tech-savvy than their parents and will know all about this already, but young children may not. Anti-virus software isn’t enough; education on how to keep a clean system is also necessary. This includes Internet security issues, such as phishing and insecure public wifi hotspots.
- Social engineering
- Malicious attempts at tricking someone through some kind of social interaction (email, IM chat, text message, face-to-face interaction, etc) to gain access to his/her information. Think of it like a con job, only with social media technology. A healthy level of skepticism and common sense may help, for both children and parents.
- Internet addiction
- An intense desire to be on the Internet, even at the detriment of the other aspects of one’s life: health, relationships, social maturity, etc. There is still much debate over whether or not this is clinically a real addiction, but overusing anything is never a good thing. This can include the social media, the web, video games, and even mobile devices.
- Erroneous information
- Data that is intentionally misleading or unintentionally incorrect. Don’t trust everything you see on the web. To be safe, always go to verified sources or double-check the information. Some older school-aged children seem to be aware of this, but younger children – and parents – may not be.
- Adult activities
- Any kind of media portraying adults in sexual acts. It is surprisingly easy to find porn on the web. Unless you have a parental filter, your children will inevitably encounter it one day, whether it be intentionally on a porn site or unintentionally in a random video chat. Perhaps the best a parent can hope for is that their children will have a healthy & appropriate sexual education.
- Illegal activities
- Actions that break the law. The Internet makes many things surprisingly easy to do, like ordering illegal weapons, hacking into a federal computer system, or unknowingly breaking a foreign law. Children may assume that because something is easy and possible, it’s also acceptable and legal. It may not be.
- Hate groups
- Organizations that exist primarily to evangelize their intense dislike for a particular group of people. Such groups often thrive online. Children may need to be educated about the existence of such groups, especially if they may be influenced by one, or are the target of one.
- Proper grammar and spelling
- Forgetting or not learning proper grammatical constructs and word spellings. It’s quicker to type in shorthand than full sentences. Some technologies, like SMS and Twitter, even have character restrictions, further encouraging the use of shorthand. I don’t want to sound like a grumpy old man who’s arguing that grammar & spelling is going downhill, but parents may want to keep an eye on this nonetheless.
- Words that are generally considered to be impolite and unacceptable for children. Though there are many child-safe sites out there, lots of blogs – including mine, I should say – contain profanity. Parental Internet filters will block sites with profanity in them.
- Mean behavior
- Words from people designed to create ill will. This, of course, is something children will face in real-life also, though misunderstandings and miscommunications are more common on the Internet. What is curt to one person is rude to another. Tempers can also run high and inhibitions low. This may be an issue for children who may be overly sensitive or insensitive.
- International interactions
- Encounters with people of cultures foreign to those of your family. Since the Internet is international, children may come across languages, behaviors and mannerisms from people of other cultures. This is a good thing and may provide an opportunity for a parent to teach their children about geography and other cultures, though misunderstandings and miscommunications may occur.
- Dimished social connectedness
- A decrease in the ability to relate to people due to heavy Internet usage. As a potential consequence of Internet addiction, some studies have reported children saying they feel alone and secluded when not using social media. Being without an Internet connection led to withdrawal symptoms such as anxiety. Others have reported a decrease in stranger empathy. Much research still needs to be done on this topic, however.
Again, this is only a swag at a list of potential issues a child may face when using social media technologies. I don’t think technology is inherently harmful. Nor do I intend to frighten parents and make it sound like the Internet is rife with problems. There are a lot of amazing advances coming from technology that will help children, such as education technologies, information access, international awareness, etc.
This list is an attempt to prepare myself for how I may need to educate my children. As with everything in life, there is always the potential to misuse social media technologies in harmful ways. By understanding what those may be, I hope to become a better-educated parent.
What do you think of this list? Did I miss anything? Is an item here really not a big deal? I would love to know what you think; all suggestions welcome. Thanks!