Missed Connections
November 19th, 2006"You ever wonder about those missed chances?"
I scratched my chin. "What do you mean? Like Missed Connections on Craigslist?"
"No, no," Tim shook his head. "I mean, like, you meet someone briefly, but you don't really follow through. What if that person was The One for you? And now you lost your chance?"
"Hmm… Are you thinking of a specific incident here? Or just in general?"
"Just in general." He looked off in a distance with a pause. "Well, so when I've gone clubbing, I'll get all drunk and start talking to random chicks, you know? What if one of them could have been The One, or at least, a good friend?"
I took a deep breath to take in the question. Tim ordered another beer.
"I think it's all Fate. If you weren't meant to connect with that person, then it's not going to happen. It wasn't meant to be."
Tim took two large gulps. "Yea. But what if, you know? What if that chick was The One?"
"How are you to ever know? The grass always seems greener on the other side, right? I think you're idealizing a missed connection too much."
"Idealizing?"
"Yea. It's easy to think about What Ifs about everything that's ever happened to you. If you look back into your past right now, I'm sure you can pick out a dozen things that could have turned out differently."
"Shit, yea. Let's see, there was that receptionist chick. And that boring but cute chick. And that other chick. Oh man, my life is a mess! It could have been so much better! Thanks man, now I'm all depressed!"
I laughed and snorted up some beer. "Ha! Funny, dude."
"Heh heh. I know what you mean though. It's easy to look back on some random chick and wonder if she could have been The One, but you will never really know, right?"
"Right. And if you believe in Fate, if she really was The One, then you would have connected."
"Yea…" We both took several gulps in silence.
"Man, that was a deep topic," Tim added. "Let's talk about something else."
"Okay." I looked around the bar. "Let's talk about chicks."
"Sweet."
And we wondered no more.
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You ever wonder about those missed connections?
November 20th, 2006 at 2:34 am
I don't remember how the hell I stumbled across this blog but I did. Good story. An equally philosophical train of thought is how you come to realize when someone is not the one.
November 20th, 2006 at 3:18 am
Was this the deleted episode from Sex in the City?
November 21st, 2006 at 2:26 am
I always believe that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the most random people come into your life and the connections are so intense, it's like it was meant to be. Like your paths were meant to cross. But the reasons why are left for pondering.
Perhaps these people need healing in their lives and you are the person who can help therapize them. Or maybe they have an important lesson and you will gain insight from their teachings. Or maybe it's a mutually beneficial friendship and the two of you enjoy each others company, growing and learning from one another. Or maybe one of the people you meet is The One, and Fate has decided that the situation or timing isn't right.
Whatever the explanation, your meeting happened for a reason and these people somehow add (or added) significance to your life.
February 22nd, 2007 at 7:26 pm
Yes I did,and I liked this site a lot on the same topic.
March 5th, 2007 at 6:38 pm
Hi! I know 2 different friends who met a missed connection. One on Craigslist (he's in SF), and one on this site Kizmeet (she's in LA). Neither of them ended up being "the one", but…