Can a good-looking girl and guy just be friends?

To answer this question, let me tell you about the deep, dark and dazed psyche of the male mind.

A guy has three basic organs to which he has to obey:

  • Brain
  • Heart
  • Groin

Brain is where the logic comes from. Rational thought, spatial geometry, and the part that tells him, "Beer before liquor, never sicker."

Heart is where the passion from. All that fluffy shit. It's why he washes, rinses, shines, and buffs his new car more than he brushes his teeth - because he would bear it's children if he could.

And Groin, well, I think some of you may be surprised to hear that this isn't the ONLY organ to which a guy has to obey. I can sum it up in three words: sex, sex, sex.

So when a guy is just a friend with an attractive young lady, one of these three organs will take the forefront. If this is the case, then more often than not it was Brain (or possibly Heart).

Groin may want to come into the picture, sure. These three organs vie for attention like three brothers trying to get their parents' attention.

But sometimes Certain Circumstances step onto the stage and muddle the scene. These Certain Circumstances could be:

  • One is homosexual
  • One is not attracted to the other's personality
  • One or both are afraid to lose the friendship
  • One or both have significant other(s)
  • Both are separated by long distance
  • Both have a complex web of mutual friends or enemies

Devoid of these circumstances, it's a contest between these three brothers.

It can be a lop-sided contest because not every guy gives equal attention to these three. Just like parents (though they'll never admit it), there are favorites.

Some guys prefer to take the high road of honor and chivalry. Brain dominates in these cases, where Right vs. Wrong constantly do battle.

Others are more apt to passion and idealism. That's because Heart urges them to constantly express themselves through art, music, writing, etc.

Then you have the Dogs, the Macs, the Players. Groin leads this valiant charge for any chance to "Bump uglies in the night," as many Groin-led guys have been known to say.

Because they would never - Heavens no - call it "Making love."

And, of course, we can't forget the hybrids, the more commonly seen variations. A mix and match of honor and passion or expression and lust. Or even logical horniness.

("I just had an itch down there that I just had to get rid of, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to function all day!")

So if you take two friends of the opposite sex, both generally attractive people, and look deep inside the guy's subconscious, you'll see a mess.

But beyond that mess, you'll see the three brothers, Brain, Heart, and Groin (or hybrid thereof), fighting it out in true traditional Kung Fu style, to gain control over Body.

If you factor in the guy's predisposition (Brain, Heart, Groin, or hybrid), this will give you a good glimpse of his character. Frightening, isn't it?

Now put him on the Stage of Life. Put his female friend on the Stage as well.

Now toss in the Certain Circumstances. These obstacles may or may not obstruct their view of each other.

If Heart or Groin dominate his mind, he's likely to climb over these obstacles to be with her.

If Brain leads the way, then don't expect him to put on those mountain climbing boots anytime soon.

If the Certain Circumstances totally obstruct the view, you're not likely to see any action in this play either.

But if there are no obstacles at all, then the guy, no matter which organ he chooses to listen to, will make his way over to her.

Because sometimes a friend who attracts all three - Brain, Heart, and Groin - has attracted his Soul.

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Can a good-looking girl and guy just be friends?